Hi, this is Cyreal, I’m a board member from France. I got a “few” questions for you guys : What do you call obsession? How do you know you’re obsessed?
How do you make the difference between being obsessed and being in love passionately ?
Cas pratique: I think about a girl a lot, and when I say a lot I mean it. I’ve had an eye on her for 2 years now but just got the courage to talk to her a couple weeks ago.
As usually, this has only been possible because I found a good excuse : some interest we have in commune for Finland (a Scandinavian country… north of Europe). She went there this summer, and I’m gonna study there next year… so I asked her out so that we could talk about it. And I realized she was THE one…
Then I realized she probably was the 86th THE one… and that this time she must be just a girl I like… the problem, though, is that my brain got the point, but not my heart, and I feel just the same as if she were THE one.
>> I’m scared when approaching her, I think of her all the time, I make some stupid plans about a hypothetical relationship… I’m just nuts…
We’ve been out a couple of times, movie, theater, hockey game, diner… we got to talk and have some fun… but I liked her probably because she was the unavailable type (she gotta a boyfriend).
Do you guys feel like you always fall in love w/ people you know you can’t get?
It made me think that IT was the reason why I fell in love w/ such people, because I couldn’t get them. Ain’t that weird?
Probably feels better knowing we won’t be able to get involved into a true relationship ?
Anyways, this time I feel there’s a chance.
I love her, the problem is though: How do I know my consciousness of the fact that only unavailable girls attract me makes it possible or not for this relationship to be a healthy one?
Oups gotta finish later.