So what you are saying in you are responsible for your actions, not your feelings is that we should take what makes you shy and “attack” it. Like talking to people. This makes me shy talking to new people. That when I’m in that situation I should just talk to the people near me and forget the consequences. Talking is my main problem. When I go places I’m quiet and alone, but in an internet chat room I’m open and easy to talk to. I think it is because I find a kind of safety from behind the computer. People can’t get as close as they could in real life.
To prove that this is true I’ll tell you something. I meet this girl in a chat room and I found out that she lived only a few miles away from me. So I called her latter that night. I could barely talk to her. I was so nervous. She asked me out and I said yes.
We then planned to meet at a movie. This was all planned but when I got to the movie and saw her, I left right away. She never knew I showed up. I had this feeling of paralysis.
I had seen her but I just couldn’t walk over and say anything to her.
We chatted on the internet together for several months. I never even sent a picture of myself to her.