I seem to be fixated on the same old recurring theme–and I guess it’s my personal hump to get over. Whatever it is, it is the block that is keeping me from living my life in a wholesome and happy way. And it is this: I cannot seem to get past the seeming coldness or indifference of strangers and acquaintances. I was wondering if you could relate because it might be something you went through at one time–and specifically what measures you took to get around it. I keep experimenting in these flimsy little ways, and of course I have no success. I think my method over the years was to strive to be colder and even more indifferent than them—beat them at their own game, if you will. A disaster story! Right now the only logical approach I can think of is to accept that the coldness and indifference that I see is a natural product of an aggressive and highly stressed society. And maybe just shake my head in knowingly and do my best to be one person who does not spread that coldness and indifference around. I will confess that a lot of the reason why this is all so troubling for me is that I don’t have a protective and loving network to cushion the coldness of the outside world. I keep putting myself in overwhelming situations (the most recent being making a cold move to a whole new city where I know about 3 people and they are not supportive the way I need to be supported). That last sentence sums up my troubled pattern very well–I use poor judgement when it comes to environment and significant relationships.