Shyness Advice Index

Here is an indexed list of links to all the shyness advice posts and comments.

Accept Shyness?
The more I try to get rid of my shyness the stronger it becomes

Continued action turns worry and anxiousness into self assurance
The *cure* for social anxiety has been found!

I can chat but not in person!
OK expressing feelings for someone on paper or electronically instead of in person such as love letter?
Too insecure to call him

Shyness and Consciousness

Blind Date: HELP!
Do you always fall in love with people you can’t get?
I’m growing and some of these layers of self dislike are peeling away
It’s never too late to find love
I’ve dealt a crushing blow to my worst, bitterly hated enemy FEAR
Shy loves Shy
The relationship feels lopsided
What if I kiss the wrong way?
Why is it so hard to just talk to someone I like!?

Do I have shyness, social anxiety, or social phobia?

Eye Contact
I have trouble with eye contact with everyone

Helping Others
How can I help my shy nephew?
What to do about a shy adult son

Reprogram the subconscious mind to overcome shyness?

Does anyone else have difficulty with introductions?

Making Friends
Everybody needs people they can relate to
Is there an easy way to approach someone or must it always be hard?
Sing for your supper
Why is it so easy for other people to develop companionship?
Would you like to dance? (ever thought of dancing as a way to be more social?)

How can I motivate myself consistently enough to make a real difference in my life?
I feel like I’ll never make it through school at the rate I’m going – I will drop out
Look for mentors that make you challenge yourself
My head knows what to do but my heart doesn’t follow
Some improvement but still have problem with procrastinating and sleeping too much

Nice Guy
Why is being a nice guy so unattractive?

Perception of Others
How do I avoid extremely negative feedback?
I am quiet, introverted and people think I’m a snob
I cannot seem to get past the seeming coldness or indifference of strangers and acquaintances
Is shyness a lifetime sentence?
Why is it OK to ask why are you so quiet?

Quick Solutions to Shyness
A Quick Way to Overcome Shyness?

Small Talk
How do I stop feeling awkward and self-conscious with silence?
The dreaded silence…
This “small talk” business is destroying me

I am 28 and have never had a girlfriend
When should one tell a female you are attracted to that you are still a virgin?

Is there a reason for my shyness?

Advice for phone anxiety at work
Keep showing up!
I feel incompetent and helpless, but I know that I am skilled enough to perform the job

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Why we should celebrate shyness: Shrinking Violets a book by the cultural historian Joe Moran

“Shrinking Violets” a book by the cultural historian Joe Moran, which explores shyness in politics, literature and psychology.

From Agatha Christie and Charles Darwin to Keira Knightley, Francoise Hardy and Morrissey, the socially awkward and anxious have changed the world for the better. Have we forgotten the benefits of being shy?

How could someone so successful still be so insecure? This is the paradox at the heart of a new book, Shrinking Violets, by the cultural historian Joe Moran, which explores shyness in politics, literature and psychology. Shyness may seem a trivial matter to those who aren’t afflicted, but as Moran points out, these feelings can even be a matter of life and death.

“One of the mistakes you can make when you are shy is to think that you are very unusual in the way you are interacting with people – but some of these problems are universal.” With Moran as its reluctant, mild-mannered cheerleader, the Shy Pride movement may have just been born.


Robson, David.(2016, August 31). Why we should celebrate shyness. BBC.Com. Accessed on September 18, 2016.

My Monster or Yours? A Journey about finding meaning and true love

The work in progress book “My Monster or Yours?” is a  journey about finding meaning and true love. Following the ideas of others helped but at some point I was on my own. An idea came to mind that I tried out and it worked. It seemed absurd but I had nothing to loose.

Join me in my new book as I share in fiction form what happened. You may not believe it. Reading about my inner discovery may help you or it may disturb you, there is no way to know.

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Top 3 Shyness Books

The Top 3 Shyness Books for Your Library

In order of what books would help one most with shyness action:

#1 Dr. Carducci Ph.D. Shyness Research Institute teaches how to go from being shy to “SUCCESSFULLY SHY” Shyness: A Bold New Approach

#2 The Highly Sensitive Person : How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You by Elaine N. Aron This treasure written and researched by a Ph.D. who is shy herself changes our understanding of shyness.  Highly credible and a joy to read.

#3 Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain