Do you feel extremely self-conscious when attending any kind of event, gathering, or party? Do you think that you do not know what to say or do?
What helps is following the tradition of “singing for your supper” which means bringing something to the party. It could be a story, a genuine compliment, some interesting news, a special food or drink, anything that you can “give” instead of just looking for others to entertain your or help you feel welcome.
In a similar way, a Psychology Today article by Alex Lickerman M.D explains that the solution to shyness is not greater self-confidence, instead it is compassion and caring about another’s happiness.